Recently I wrote an article entitled “The Dangers of Victimhood“, this article is a companion piece because just like real and phony “victimhood”, there is also real and phony forgiveness. Just like a phony victim who is angry and demanding justice, there is also phony forgiveness that is used by victims of all kinds, phony and legitimate, to take away their pain and hurt, the phony forgiveness, one-sided and only self-serving, is forgiveness, that is a complete fraud! One thing I require of any and every man who wishes to call me brother and fellowship with me, I require, I demand, a clear understanding on the issue of forgiveness. If you are so deceived by the lies of the Harlot Church system, so that you have never exposed this lie, this fraud, you are not ready for fellowship with Robert Begnaud; the subject is so clearly spoken of in scriptures, you really are without excuse.
Once in my attempt to illustrate this fraudulent forgiveness, I wrote a story to illustrate it, rather than copy and paste it into this article, here is the link: “The wise and Righteous Judge“.
Let’s define “FRAUDULENT FORGIVENESS” None of which is scriptural:
- If you have been hurt by somebody, if you feel victimized, you must forgive them.
- When you are in pain because of wrongs done to you, when you are holding hate and resentment in your heart, you must forgive those who you think, or have, done you wrong, or God will not forgive you.
- The reason you forgive others is to release the pain and hate inside.
- Forgiveness is all about your health and well being.
- Even unrepentant sinners can forgive and let go of their hate and anger. Even Buddhist, Hindus and all kinds of Eastern Religious meditation can cause one to come to peace with themselves and let go of their pain and anger.
- FORGIVENESS IS ALL ABOUT YOU!
I asked a reportedly wise bible teacher, after having endured his dribble teaching on forgiveness, “please show me anywhere in scripture where it says this?” “Oh well”, he said, “it doesn’t say exactly that, but it does say if you don’t forgive others that God won’t forgive you”. So let me get this straight, you are teaching something as a fact so basic to the Christian faith, and you can’t find it anywhere in scriptures?
Here are some examples in the scriptures of forgiveness and I want you to notice the difference between this forgiveness and the fraudulent forgiveness above:
(Exo 10:16-18) Then Pharaoh called for Moses and Aaron in haste; and he said, I have sinned against the LORD your God, and against you. Now therefore forgive, I pray thee, my sin only this once, and intreat the LORD your God, that he may take away from me this death only. And he went out from Pharaoh, and intreated the LORD.
Is the above forgiveness all about Moses or is it all about Pharaoh who sinned? Pharaoh of course! And how about the next one?
(1Sa 25:28) I pray thee, forgive the trespass of thine handmaid: for the LORD will certainly make my lord a sure house; because my lord fighteth the battles of the LORD, and evil hath not been found in thee all thy days.
In the incident between David, Nabal and Abigail, was it about David or Nabal and Abigail?
Or how about the parable on forgiveness Jesus gave?
(Mat 18:23-30) Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt.
So who above in this parable received the benefit of forgiveness, the “forgiver” or the “forgivee”? Obviously the forgivee that avoided jail or not! The forgiver was to show mercy and the forgivee was to receive that mercy, “blessed are the merciful”.
Remember in Matt. 18? (Mat 18:15-22) Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican. Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
I remember moving to another state many years ago, my wife and I had little babies to care for, I had just lost my job due to the economy and I had a friend whom I believed was my brother. He invited my family and I to move in with him in his 5000 square foot home out of state until I could get established again, we were attempting to start a home improvement business together. He even put my name on his business bank account and made me believe that I was his business partner, he had gained my trust to the extent that I would even deposit my unemployment check into the mutual account. After a short period of time I realized that the man I trusted was doing several unscrupulous things, not paying bills, buying tools, using them and returning them after the job was completed, needless to say, I and him as reported business partners, had a major disagreement. This man turned on my family in a vicious way, told lies that caused my unemployment check to cease, literally had my family and I kicked out on the street in a couple of days, this man literally tried to destroy my family, when we had done nothing wrong. We had no car, the access to what money we had was cut off, all of our belongings were in storage out of state, we only brought with us what we could carry on the plane, we were really in dire straights!
Myself and this man both attended a local pentecostal church, so I contacted the church pastor and elders and asked for their assistance in pursuing the requirements of Matt. 18. The pastor and elders told me that they did not want to get involved, they couldn’t judge the matter since there was two sides to every story. So my family and I were left out in the cold in a strange land to figure out how to survive another day.
True fellowship and true love of the brethren are almost non-existent in the harlot church system. This fraudulent lie we call “forgiveness” is designed to shield the people of God from judging an issue, they don’t want to be inconvenienced by the troubles of their brothers, they don’t judge what is right as Matt. 18 requires. Judging what is right requires men of faith where two or three agree, it requires men of faith to take a stand and to by faith pass judgement on evil doers, like the man in Corinth who was sleeping with his step mother – “turn his flesh over to Satan that his soul might be saved”. Notice that the man in Corinth was not forgiven until he had repented with great sorrow? (2Cor. 2:7)
Only a person who has accepted this fraudulent forgiveness would attempt to forgive everyone, it’s because they don’t know the meaning of true forgiveness, neither to they value it. When God forgives us he cast off the sin as far as east is from west, into the bottom of the ocean. God doesn’t forgive us because he is needy and hateful, he forgives us because we repent, we turn away from our sin and he is merciful. True forgiveness is mercy to the sinner, not the victim of the sin, we don’t forgive because we are hurt, needy and hateful, but because we are merciful to the sinner.
(Joh 20:23) Whose soever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whose soever sins ye retain, they are retained.
Jesus had the power to forgive sins and as a King and Priest, so do you!
HERE ARE SOME BASIC GUIDELINES THAT WOULD BE HELPFUL IN UNDERSTANDING TRUE FORGIVENESS FROM FRAUDULENT FORGIVENESS:
- True forgiveness is showing mercy to the sinner and wiping out the debt he owes you. With true forgiveness there is restoration of relationships, because the sin is dismissed, not held against them, is as if it never happened.
- You can never forgive that which is not owed you. You cannot forgive a debt owed to me, neither can I forgive a debt owed to you, neither can any of us forgive a debt owed to God.
- The scripture tells us (1Co 5:12) For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within? You cannot forgive a debt owed to God and the sinner must repent and receive mercy from God. So why do you claim that you “forgive” the wrongs done to you by those whom God has not forgiven? You cannot forgive a debt owed to God, this forgiveness is fraudulent, not real. We as Christians should cast our cares on the Lord, die to self and live in him, of course let go of your hate and anger, but forgiveness is something all together different.
- Just because you’re feelings are hurt does not mean that someone owes you a debt, you just may need to grow up, you may just need to get the truth in you and die to your own self. Many people claim to forgive debts that are not owed them, this is fraudulent forgiveness.
This presented fraud has done damage to the people of God, we need to repent of this fraud because there is no love and fellowship of the brethren, when forgiveness is a fraud. When forgiveness is a fraud we don’t submit to one another in the fear of God, consider the following word of Jesus:
(Mat 5:23-25) Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.
In case you are not aware of it, Jesus is the judge who sits on the throne of David. In case you are not aware of it, there are spiritual prisons that this judge may cast you into. We are not talking about earthly judges and earthly prisons, what kingdom are you of, this earth or above? We submit to one another in the fear of God, because he is the judge. We don’t ignore our brother who has ought against us, but we go to him, because God is the judge who sits on the throne. False fraudulent forgiveness is about the person who can’t let it go, they cannot let go of the hate and anger because they believe they have been wronged, true forgiveness is about restoring a brother, it’s about showing mercy to the sinner. With false fraudulent forgiveness we remain separated and yet at false peace with ourselves, true forgiveness brings even the glory of God to this earth. (Joh 13:35) By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. However, rebuke not a fool lest he hate you!
(Psa 50:17-22) Seeing thou hatest instruction, and castest my words behind thee. When thou sawest a thief, then thou consentedst with him, and hast been partaker with adulterers. Thou givest thy mouth to evil, and thy tongue frameth deceit. Thou sittest and speakest against thy brother; thou slanderest thine own mother’s son. These things hast thou done, and I kept silence; thou thoughtest that I was altogether such an one as thyself: but I will reprove thee, and set them in order before thine eyes. Now consider this, ye that forget God, lest I tear you in pieces, and there be none to deliver.
So I would challenge you to test the simple logic of this fraud you have been taught all your lives in the Harlot Church system and even out of it. If you believe the scriptures require that you forgive everyone whether they want your forgiveness or not, test this little principle – don’t collect money owed to you, even when the debtor is willing to pay it. If forgiveness is simply about you and your well being, then don’t bother to tell me that you forgive me, because I really could care-less, it’s about you, so why tell me? However, if Matt. 18 is true and you as a King and Priest can really forgive a wrong I have done to you so that the love of God may increase and the fellowship of the brethren and the glory of God may be seen, then what are you waiting for? There are a good many people out there who claim to serve God, they have done me wrong, slandered me, spoken evil of me, judged me wrongly, I have done no wrong to them, I could start naming names, who would care? But God is still on the throne and God knows that I have cast all of my cares on him, I have made my complains known before the throne of God and he is judge. I don’t walk around with hate and anger for those who have done wrong to me and shamed the name of the Lord they claim to love, I have given that over to God, for he lives in me, not I.
But the forgiveness I have today is not phony forgiveness, it’s not about me and the way I feel, it’s not about my well being, but if you have done me wrong, it’s about the mercy you need, that’s what true forgiveness is. I will not stand here and put on my sad humble face and say “I forgive you”, because that would give you false hope, that forgiveness would be fraudulent, but the Lord will come back and set it straight right before your face!
He that orders his conversation aright, will I show the salvation of God. Ps. 50:23